Adultery can be defined as extramarital sex that is highly looked down upon based on social, religious, moral or legal grounds. Although the concept of adultery exists in almost all societies, the definitions and the consequences vary from one community to another.
Although adultery used to be considered as a crime sometimes even punishable by death in historic times, it is no longer a criminal offence in western countries. However, adultery tends to have legal consequences, particularly in divorce cases where there exists a fault-based family law. In such cases, adultery is considered grounds for divorce.
When considering alimony, property settlement or the custody of children, adultery in such cases may be a deciding factor. Adultery is criminalized in some countries where, mostly, the dominant religion is Islam, and some ultra-conservative countries with the Islamic Sharia Law in operation may even implement stoning as punishment for adultery.
Infidelity is known by many names, having an affair or cheating being just two of them. Com vs. Destroyable vs. Aboriginal vs. Coelomate vs. Ocean vs. Judge vs. Flag vs. Forbear vs. Awesomely vs. Fat vs. Sonhood vs. Ricochet vs. Channel vs. Trending Comparisons. Mandate vs. Ivermectin vs. Skinwalker vs.
Socialism vs. Man vs. Supersonic vs. Gazelle vs. Jem vs. Mouse vs. You vs. Lubuntu vs. Virtual vs. Featured Comparisons Guidence vs. Togather vs. Maintenance vs. Of course then for others it is the sexual infidelity. I help clients find their truth for themselves and define it, and then determine how they want to be in that, own it, and make amends for it, for themselves and their partners.
One of the hardest struggles for many clients is realizing that the infidelity came from a space of being misaligned in their own values. Most people assume infidelity is physical, but the truth is that all infidelity starts with emotion. Spending more time with the positive person is a respite from the negative emotions we feel from our partner. Usually, emotional infidelity starts with a harmless crush.
But once we start to flirt and spend more time with someone we have our eye on, a relationship can develop that has romantic potential. Eventually, this opens the door to physical infidelity. What went wrong here?
We made the decision to grow closer to that other person and form a personally intimate bond. How to prevent this situation altogether? Communication is key here. I define fidelity as remaining faithful to the existing terms of the relationship. But if we had joint finances, were raising kids together, or had different terms of the relationship, I would consider it an infidelity if my partner took on debt , made a huge purchase, or changed his financial situation without consulting me.
But other things, like manipulation, cruel language, plain old unhappiness, sexual incompatibility, etc. It is entirely possible for monogamous people to work out their terms of the relationship and not rely on assumptions about fidelity. However, monogamy makes it possible to let these assumptions go unexamined. You can be in a monogamous relationship based on existing societal terms. In our modern culture we tend to assume fidelity is the whole deal: sexual, emotional, relational, planning-for-the-future-together fidelity.
We get these stories from the ways we were raised—some may have been explicit, like advice from elders or peers, or it may be we picked up things implied by the media we consume. Or it could be culturally dictated. But maybe your partner is also attracted to women, and knowing that might change how you feel about her emotionally invested friendships. Ultimately, the parameters of fidelity have to be defined by the people in the relationship. I think the healthiest way to look at it is: being in integrity with the explicit agreements you make together.
People in polyamory, and other kind of honest non-monogamous relationships, are still capable of breaking promises, bending their agreements, and cheating.
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